Have you ever had an apology, but the apology didn’t feel sincere? I’m going to show you exactly why those false apologies are so narcissistic and teach you how to handle them in the future.
I’m an expert when it comes to identifying narcissistic behavior. You see, narcissists often use “apologies” that don’t feel sincere or come off as insincere because they are in fact not meant to be genuine. I’m going to break down 7 of these false apologies so that you can recognize them when they happen and know how to best respond.
When a narcissist says, “I’m sorry that you feel that way,” it’s important to keep in mind the underlying message behind these words. Essentially, the narcissist is not apologizing for their actions or taking responsibility for how they may have hurt you. Instead, they are shifting the blame onto you and dismissing your emotions as being invalid or unnecessary. If you find yourself in a situation where a narcissist attempts to apologize in this way, remember that you have a right to your feelings and experiences, and it’s not your responsibility to make them feel better about their behavior.
Narcissists often use the phrase “I’m sorry if I said anything to offend you but I don’t think I did”. It’s important to recognize that this statement is not a genuine apology, but rather a defensive tactic. They are indirectly blaming you for being offended while simultaneously denying any wrongdoing. Narcissists may also use a condescending tone of voice when saying this, further adding to their manipulative behavior. It’s important to set boundaries with narcissistic individuals and not allow them to make you feel guilty for their behavior. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and empathy.
When a narcissist says, “I guess I should tell you I’m sorry,”. Rather than feeling genuine remorse for their actions, they may be using apologies as a tool to continue their destructive behavior. It’s essential to assess the situation carefully and prioritize your own emotional well-being when dealing with a narcissist. Understanding their motivations and tactics can help you navigate their behavior and protect yourself from further harm. Remember, true apologies are accompanied by genuine attempts to improve and make amends, and actions speak louder than words.
When a narcissist says, “fine sorry what do you want me to do? Do you want me to climb up on a cross?”. This statement is commonly used as a way for them to avoid taking responsibility for their behavior and deflecting the blame onto you. Don’t internalize their manipulative tactics and know that it’s perfectly acceptable to hold them accountable for their behavior.
Narcissistic personality disorder can be confusing and difficult to navigate, especially when the person with the disorder seems to have good intentions. When a narcissist says “I was just trying to help” or “I just want you whatever way I can,” it’s important to consider their actions and behavior in context. While they may genuinely believe they’re being helpful or good, their actions could actually be self-serving and manipulative. It’s important not be swayed by their charming words. Remember, a narcissist’s priority is typically themselves, not others.
When a narcissist says “my friend said that I should apologize” it is wise to be cautious. As with any apology from a narcissist, it is likely to be insincere and allow the narcissist to excuse their bad behavior and move on without learning from the situation. Always remember that narcissists are incapable of true contrition or understanding of how their words or actions have affected you. In order to spare yourself, be firm in your stance – even if the narcissist’s “friend” insists upon them apologizing.
And the worse apology is when a narcissist says ,”I will apologize if you will,” it’s important to understand their true intentions. While it may appear on the surface that they are willing to take responsibility and make amends for their actions, the reality is often quite different. This statement is actually a classic example of a narcissist’s manipulative tactics. By shifting the focus onto the other person, they are attempting to deflect blame and avoid being held accountable. It’s likely that they have no intention of actually apologizing, and are simply trying to maintain control of the situation. It’s important to recognize these tactics for what they are, and to approach the situation with caution and clear boundaries.
All in all, it is essential to keep your guard up when dealing with a narcissistic person. Yes, even when they are trying to apologize for the harm that they caused. Do not be fooled by false apologies, as the narcissist will always be attempting to manipulate the situation in their favour. So do not let them win. Acknowledge their wrong-doings instead of accepting empty apologies and show everyone that no one underestimates your worth and value. Doing so shows resilience and it will help empower you and make you stronger. Above all else, take care of yourself and never let anyone take away your peace or power! Trust me you make yourself proud by doing so!