Are you dealing with a narcissist and you’re feeling like they just control the conversation and you just cannot get a word in edgewise? In this article, I’m going to reveal about the stealth ways that narcissists control conversations, maybe the ways that you don’t even realize that they’re controlling conversations and they’re just driving you crazy.
Let’s talk about those stealth ways that narcissists control conversations. Now, you know, they’re always trying to control you, right? They are manipulative by nature, but what are the ways that are really kind of stealthy, more secretive, and more underhanded that they’re trying to control conversations? The ways that aren’t as obvious that they’re doing this.
You’re trying to be over there nice. You’re trying to be the good person. The fact that you’re in a relationship with a narcissist probably means that you are a good person. Whether it’s a business relationship, workplace, friendship, romantic relationship. You know, a lot of times you’re trying to be polite. You’re trying to be the one who takes the higher road and you’re thinking, I don’t know, what should I do here?
I just want to bring this up so that it makes it a little bit easier for you to recognize when these things happen and you can go, oh, you know what? I knew. I knew that this was something. I knew that this was going on. Let’s talk about number one. They all of a sudden start going, “oh, I can’t believe that you would bring this up and after all that I’ve done for you, I just tried to be a good mother. I just wanted to do something good for you. I really just wanted you to have some support.” All of a sudden, it’s the guilt trip. So number one is it’s stealthy because it doesn’t seem like controlling the conversation, but this is where they become the victim.
Most of the time where people think, “Oh, they’re trying to control the conversation” where they actually are doing something to you stealthier because they’ve become the victim in this. They’ve turned themselves into that victim. Oh my gosh, I was just trying to do something good for you and I was just trying to support you in that and so all of a sudden it’s been turned around like that and now you’re taking care of them. Oh, I know that you were doing that. I know that that’s what you meant to do. I wasn’t trying to attack you. I wasn’t meaning to bring you any harm and now they’ve taken back control of the conversation. You see how stealth that was? That’s what happened there and now you haven’t been able to talk about anything.
Number two is they changed the topic. So you are talking about something that happened. Instead of what you wanted to talk about, which was the conversation that you actually had with the dentist, they changed the topic. Now you have to defend yourself about the whole situation at the dentist instead of actually talking about what it was that you wanted to talk about. They start questioning another portion of what it is that you’re talking about and then you end up talking about that instead of what it was that you really wanted to talk about in the first place. So they’ve completely just changed the topic and you never really get back to what it was that you wanted to talk about. So they’ve just hijacked the conversation completely. That’s another way that they control the conversation.
Thirdly is when they begin to raise their voice. As a result, you may ask why they are doing so, and they may deny it, leading to a discussion about their emotions rather than the original topic. This is another subtle method of taking control of the conversation, and they may use it to manipulate you.
The fourth one is that Narcissists interrupt you constantly. They will cut you off and try to derail the conversation to make sure it’s always under their control. They will deny interrupting you, feign misunderstanding, or even ignore you completely in text messages or emails. By doing this, they keep the conversation on their terms and maintain their power over you. It’s important to recognize this behavior and understand that you deserve better than to be treated in this way.
And lastly, narcissists will act like they don’t understand what you’re saying or will just ignore you completely. They will send inflammatory messages and not respond, leaving you feeling powerless and frustrated. It’s important to remember that this behavior is not normal and that you deserve respect in any conversation. Regular people have back-and-forth discussions, not constant interruptions or control. Recognizing this behavior is the first step in setting boundaries and demanding respect in any conversation. Remember, you deserve better.
You know that you deserve better. And the best way that you can do this is start to empower yourself to start to feel better about yourself. Start to get like Teflon against them. And part of the way that you can do that is to start to be less isolated. That’s why I want you to join my free private Facebook group. Just actually start getting some people around you, start to have some emotional support, which is narcissists negotiators with Rebecca Zung. So make sure that you join my private Facebook group and also make sure that you get the support you need through therapy.
Remember that there is no better day than TODAY to start negotiating your best life! Apply these 6 ways in any situation you are in right now if you’re dealing with a narcissist and you will keep SLAYING them. They only win if you give in. So don’t you ever give up!
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