I am going to give you the number one trick but first let’s go through several other tricks that you can use.
#1 Creating Boundaries.
You must start to create boundaries right away because they have been conditioning you from the beginning. They started right at the beginning when they came on with their love-bombing. Love-bombing was just a start to start conditioning you. They were checking you out to see if you were going to be a good form of supply for them. They are so charming. They know how to turn it on. They know how to lay it on super thick. But it was just to see if you were going to be good for them because that is what they are all about. They want to know if you are going to be able to feed them. They need to feed that black hole that’s inside of them, that black empty hole that is inside of them. The have no inner sense of value. It’s like they’re starving inside and so they are constantly looking like vultures looking for food and that’s what you ended up being for them. You must shut off that source because you’re never going to feed it. That’s why you end up feeling empty inside. You end up feeling dead. You end up feeling lifeless because you are never going to feed it. You’re never going to be able to do it so you end up feeling drained and empty. That is why they are also called Energy Vampires. They literally suck the energy all out of you so you must start creating boundaries right away.
#2 Do Not Allow Them to Get Away with Anything
You might be going through some form of case, divorce case, paternity case, business partnership case, or some other form of a case. You do not want to allow them to get away with anything at all. As soon as they didn’t provide something that they were supposed to provide, or they didn’t bring the kids back on time or they didn’t do something that they were supposed to do. You must shut that off right away. File that motion, send that letter, do the thing. So, if you have a lawyer that is not right on them then you either got to tell your lawyer to get on them or get a different lawyer, but you must make sure that you are right on them. Otherwise, they are like “I got away with it”. So, you got to be right on them.
#3 Be Super Brief with Your Interactions
You want to be as brief as possible when interacting with them especially if you’re not living in the same home anymore or you are not business partners anymore. But even if you are business partners or living in the same home just try to start minimizing your interactions with them because they know how to trigger you. They are going to try to get under your skin because they love that. They love watching you squirm. They love watching you go crazy. They get supply from that. Not only that, they love feeding off watching you go crazy, but they also use whatever your reactions are against you. So, it is a double-edge thing that they get from that.
#4 Go Gray Rock
Gray Rock is another term for where you literally turn into a gray rock. Emotionally, when you are around them, you give them as little as possible. You give them very short answers. You don’t show them that anything is bothering you. You don’t get triggered when you are around them. You just kind of like pretend you are reporting the news. You are just observing almost like you are a third party observing. You are just observing their behavior to them like “I see that you are upset”. You just kind of become like a gray rock. You give them literally nothing as far as your emotions because if you start to shut of that supply emotionally then they won’t be interested anymore. They are going to want to go and get that supply from somewhere else. They will get worse before it gets better but remember that they are their worst right before they are ready to give up.
THE NUMBER ONE TRICK
The SLAY Method about Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate and focusing on You. You create a super strong strategy, incorporate invincible leverage, and you anticipate what they are going to do and be two steps ahead of them. You focus on you, your case and your position. You focus on your mindset because 99% of bringing a narcissist to justice is focusing on you, your mindset and your position. You can have the best lawyer in the world. You can have the best everything in the world but if you don’t believe you can win than no one can help you. You must believe you can win first. As far as leverage is concerned and bringing a narcissist to justice, you must have something that can potentially expose them in exposing their most important form of supply, the thing that means the most to them. Threaten that form of supply because you must have a way to threaten something that means more to them to keep than the supply that they get from jerking you around because they are getting supply from manipulating you, controlling you and jerking you around. That is the number one way to bring a narcissist to justice. That is going to be your leverage. You must figure out a strategy in order to create that leverage. That’s the SLAY methodology in a nutshell. To get started, check out http://www.slayyournegotiation.com/rzwebinar and watch the most recent replay right away.
