Are you interested in discovering three powerful words that can greatly intimidate narcissists? I understand you may be skeptical about anything being able to threaten a narcissist, but in this article, I will reveal three small words that can have a significant impact on them.
The first of the three small words that greatly threaten narcissists is undoubtedly the one they dread hearing the most. This is because they constantly strive to maintain control over you. As I’ve mentioned before, narcissists are actually more afraid of you than you are of them. The reason behind this is their strong desire to protect their own world and avoid any threats to their territory. That first word is “no.” Narcissists fear any form of rejection or denial as it directly challenges their sense of control. Saying “no” to them is the worst thing you can do, which is why, when teaching negotiation techniques, it’s crucial not to simply refuse outright. Instead, you should seek ways to make it appear as if you’re going along, at least for a while. One strategy I teach is called “fluff or favor vomit later.”
Essentially, it involves inflating their ego, just like fluffing up a pillow. I refer to this as ethically manipulating the manipulator. The approach entails giving them compliments or something they value, making them feel great, and in return, you can request something you want. For instance, if you need help with QuickBooks, you could say, “Can you handle the QuickBooks? You’re so much smarter and better at it. It’ll get done much faster if you do it, as I’m not very knowledgeable about it.” It’s important to note that you must avoid any sarcastic or negative tones. Instead, focus on praising them, as they only want to hear positive things about themselves. By saying “no” and rejecting them, you become a significant threat to their ego, and they despise that. Therefore, it’s advisable to find alternative approaches and avoid straightforward refusals, as they deeply unsettle narcissists. So, that’s the first word that poses a significant threat to them.
The second aspect that narcissists absolutely despise is personal growth. This is why they resist seeking therapy or participating in marriage counseling. They have an aversion to change and development. Self-exploration is something they avoid at all costs as it challenges their core beliefs about their identity. Additionally, they vehemently resist being held accountable for anything. Any situation that exposes their flaws or forces them to take responsibility is extremely uncomfortable for them. Engaging in growth programs or any activities that encourage personal development is not appealing to them. They prefer to remain in their facade, their false self, as it provides them with comfort. They do not want to confront their vulnerable inner self that they have concealed for many years. Anything that threatens this façade is deemed unfavorable. Both the word “no” and the idea of personal growth pose significant threats to them. If you agree with these points thus far, feel free to comment with “agree” because it signifies the truth of these observations. It is worth noting that the narcissist’s collapse can begin to unfold when they encounter these challenging factors.
Now, let’s focus on another aspect that narcissists strongly dislike and the one I highly recommend you embrace: creating boundaries. Establishing boundaries is essential for initiating your own healing process. Narcissists strive to maintain control over you, but setting boundaries is crucial to begin your journey. I suggest following these steps: Step one – don’t run; Step two – make a U-turn; Step three – break free. In step one, to kickstart your healing process and reduce toxicity in your life, you need to establish a boundary. This initial boundary might involve asserting that you won’t tolerate disrespectful language or communication. You can express something like, “I’m not okay with being spoken to in this manner.” By the way, I have phrases available for disarming narcissists, which you can access at disarmthenark.com. Visit the website to obtain those powerful phrases.
Additionally, it is important to have a support system around you. You can join my free private Facebook group, “Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zung,” for that support. If therapy is not already a part of your journey, I highly recommend seeking professional help. I have a sponsored online therapy platform called BetterHelp.com, which you can access at betterhelp.com/rebeccazung. Remember, finding the therapy that works best for you is crucial, but betterhelp.com/rebeccazung is another avenue you can explore. Please note that we receive commissions from this sponsorship, but it does not cost you any extra. So, those are the three small words that significantly threaten narcissists: “no,” “growth,” and “boundaries.” Ensure that you prioritize your safety and well-being, and approach everything in a smart and informed manner.
As an attorney, I provide free information every single day in different platforms. I also have a podcast and youtube channel where we release informative episodes several times a week. So, those are the three words that pose a significant threat to narcissists. Remember, today is a great day to start negotiating your best life. I’m Rebecca Zung, and remember, you don’t have to give in to win. There are abundant resources available to you. I’ll see you in the next video, “Five Top Things that Narcissists Steal from You.”
Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life!
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