By Rebecca Zung, Esq
In this article, we’re going to discuss the top 10 favorite threats of narcissists. They love to throw these threats around, but let’s learn how to spot them and shut them down before they even have a chance to affect us.
First on the list is the threat of divorce or leaving you. Now, let me tell you, if someone is threatening to walk away, they’re actually doing you a favor. Let them go. Often, this threat stems from their fear of abandonment, and they play the push-pull game to keep you on edge. But trust me, they don’t truly want to leave.
Next up, we have the lovely threat of cheating on you. They want to keep you on your toes, always feeling insecure. They imply that they’ll get attention, love, and validation from someone else. But don’t fall for it. Their aim is to keep you on edge, questioning your worth.
Moving on to a not-so-nice threat, some narcissists may threaten to harm themselves or even kill themselves. This tends to happen when you try to leave them or after you’ve already left. It’s a manipulative tactic to make you feel guilty and suck you back into their toxic web. Remember, this is not acceptable behavior.
Another favorite tactic is threatening to expose your vulnerabilities and secrets to others. They’ll threaten to air out your dirty laundry, the things you’ve trusted them with, and share them with people who shouldn’t know. This is a way for them to control and manipulate you, making you fear the consequences of their actions.
Then we have the classic threat of making your life a living hell. During the discard phase, they might claim that you won’t be able to escape their grasp. They’ll throw around statements like “you’ll end up on the streets,” “you’ll have no money,” or “you’ll be begging for survival.” But let me assure you, these are baseless threats, especially if there are legal aspects involved, such as alimony.
Threatening to stalk or harm you is a serious matter. If you ever find yourself in this situation, please reach out to the authorities and seek the necessary help and protection. Your safety should always be a priority.
I also want to mention that I have a resource called “Phrases for Disarming Narcissists” available at disarmthenark.com. These key phrases can help you navigate difficult conversations with narcissists. Additionally, you can join my free private Facebook group called “Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zung” for further support.
Now, let’s move on to the next threat, which involves turning people against you through a smear campaign. If you’re dealing with a narcissist who is spreading rumors and tarnishing your reputation, I highly recommend watching my video on how to shut down a narcissist’s smear campaign. It’s a valuable resource for countering this tactic effectively.
Next on the list is the threat of calling the police. It’s ironic because oftentimes, narcissists are the ones who should be reported to the authorities. Be cautious and seek legal advice if needed. Remember, your safety is paramount.
And finally, we have the most dreaded threat for many: the threat of taking your children away. Narcissists know this strikes a nerve, as your children are your Achilles heel. However, it’s crucial to understand that courts generally don’t take away children from their parents without strong reasons. So, while they may try to instill fear by claiming you’ll lose everything, it’s highly unlikely to happen.
Always remember that narcissists thrive on fear and scarcity, but true power lies within you as an empath. You possess authentic power, and you can harness it to overcome their manipulation. Don’t let them win by giving in. Stand strong and assert your rights.
Today is a great day to start negotiating your best life. They only win if you give in, and there’s no reason to do that. Remember, you are more powerful and stronger than you realize. They attach themselves to you because they know deep down that you possess the strength they lack.