How to Make a Narcissist “Lose It” in Court Proven Strategies from a Top Attorney

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all right in today’s video we are diving
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into a topic that I know so many of you
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are eager to learn about and it’s how to
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make a narcissist lose it in court yes
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that’s
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right hi everybody and welcome back to
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my channel I’m Rebecca Zong and I’m a
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globally recognized attorney and
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narcissist negotiation expert and I’m
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here to help you take back your power
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against narcissist whether it’s in a
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business setting a divorce setting
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whatever setting it is maybe it’s your
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family member who knows but I’m here to
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help you take back your power in any
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setting against narcissist so if you’re
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new here I invite you to subscribe hit
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that notification Bell and I’m helping
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you I’m so glad that you are here I have
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been an attorney for more than 20 years
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yes I did start when I was three mhm but
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I’ve done many many many trials many
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motions you know I’ve been in court lots
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and lots of times talk about it a lot in
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my book slay the bully how to negotiate
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with the narcissist and wi um hopefully
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you guys have gotten a copy of that and
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we’re going to be talking about the
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psychological triggers the different
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types of tactics that you can use to
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kind of push that narcissist buttons and
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reveal their true colors in front of a
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judge so there’s some strategies that
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you can use to kind of turn the tables
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and get judged to see who they really
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are give you that upper hand in a case
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all right so let’s get started so the
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first thing you really need to know is
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what is going to set that narcissist off
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what is a narcissist trigger so remember
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that with a narcissist it’s all about
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image it’s all about what they look like
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right it’s all about maintaining that
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perfect beautiful narcissistic Supply
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it’s that reputation how do they look to
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the world what can you do to get some
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cacks in that facade so you know you
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really should be starting that early on
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be long before you get in front of the
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courtroom and that’s what I teach people
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how to do through my sleigh method which
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it stands for strategy leverage
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anticipate and you so getting that
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leverage prepared ahead of time to
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expose them will really really help when
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you get to that cross examination when
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it’s time to uncover what it is that
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they have on understand because their
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attorney is going to do direct
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examination of them and so they’ll sit
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there and say I was perfect and I was
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wonderful and I did all these white
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great things and so what you want to be
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able to do is direct um on Cross
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examination be able to pick apart the
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things that they’re going to say so you
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want to be able to anticip ipate the
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things that they’re going to say so you
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want to be able to have summaries of
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their inconsistency summaries of their
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lies summaries of the things that
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they’ve done the things that they’ve
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said you want to be able to challenge
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the lies you want to be ready with that
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and the more that you can do that the
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better it is okay so you want to be
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having as many exhibits as you possibly
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can to expose them expose their lies
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expose who they truly are so that when
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they go to get them on that stand they
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can lead them to act
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impulsively and beat them and Trigger
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them imagine how powerful it is to show
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them oh look at look at here you said
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this here you did this here you did this
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here and then boom boom boom boom boom
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that’s what causes them to lose control
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at critical moments then we go to the
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Strategic questioning the way you frame
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your questions makes a world of
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difference because if you can ask
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questions that forces the narcissist to
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contradicts them to contradict
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themselves or highlights
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inconsistencies in their stories that’s
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when they start to get irritated and
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especially if whoever is doing the
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questioning whether it’s you hopefully
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it’s not you hopefully it’s your
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attorney or whoever stays calm stays
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here that’s when they start to get a
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angry they start to get agitated so
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let’s say you ask them about a specific
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event where their story has shifted over
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time where they are lying oh you said
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this I remember
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specifically we asked a wife about
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whether or not she had ever filed
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domestic violence charges against any
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other spouse in the past and she said no
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she hadn’t well we pulled up something
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right from the records in that same
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county where she had filed domestic
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violence charges against her former o
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but very easily calmly methodically
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pressing them on these details you put
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them on the defensive and pushes them
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closer to an outburst remember a
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narcissist hates to be exposed and so
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when you can show them know you said
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this under oath over here you said that
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you’re saying this under oath over here
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that’s when their Lies start unraveling
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and that’s when they start reacting in a
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way that shows their true nature
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does this make sense it’s so sweet to
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see so sweet to see right and you if you
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think it is so sweet to see put sweet in
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the comments below it’s all karma karma
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dealing with similar challenges the next
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thing is using silence as a weapon
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another really powerful tactic is just
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to ask a question it’s a yes or no
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question and then just sit back and ask
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a question just pause or just when they
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respond just stare at them and go like
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okay I know that you’re lying like if
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they’re rambling they’re saying
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something that’s incriminating you just
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let them go because you just know that
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it everybody knows that it’s a crazy
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chaotic thing and you just let them go
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you just let them ramble you just let it
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go nonverbal communication is another
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area where you can suly provoke a
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narcissist maintaining eye contact I’ve
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been very very good about doing that
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strong maintaining eye contact being
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powerful showing confidence with your
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Poise your posture subtle facial
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expressions just enough to unsettle them
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looking at them through glasses or
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through your paperwork H I see okay
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they’re hyper aware of how they are
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perceived when they feel like they’re
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not in control of the narrative they
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start to lose it I’ve seen them go crazy
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where the judge is like excuse me Mr so
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and so you’re going to have to get
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control of yourself and when that
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happens guess what document the Outburst
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it’s so crucial to document the Outburst
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I’ve seen situations where they’ve lost
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hearings oh my gosh I can’t believe you
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are taking my child or whatever when
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that happens and they break down in the
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courtroom make sure you document it
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because maybe the judge isn’t even there
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at that point because they lost the
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hearing and the judge is back in
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Chambers make sure you document that
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because you want to capture that moment
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and write it down so that it’s pivotal
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to show for next time for the true
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nature of that person it helps to sway
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well and if it happens right in front of
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the judees great fantastic and that’s
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why I say to make sure to do video
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depositions if you can afford it as well
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because it’ll show that narcissist true
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nature if you can get that on video for
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sure so if you found these strategies
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helpful make sure you give this video a
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what stories you’ve had in a court
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situation dealing with a narcissist in
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court is never fun it’s never easy the
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best way to deal with it is not to even
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get to that situation if you can get
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that case resolved beforehand that’s
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even better that’s why I provide
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powerful strategies to lock them in
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before you get to that situation which
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you definitely can do make sure to watch
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my next video which is the truth
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revealed how attorneys actually prove
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narcissist abuse in court really really
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important I dive deeper into courtroom
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tactics that can expose The Narcissist
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for who they truly are and remember to
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