This is a personal topic for me – yes – it is for you too – but it is also for me. I recently heard someone say that one of the biggest human flaws is that we give up too soon.
So how do you know when it is time to keep going? Or when it is time to give up?
For this context, it could apply to you in persevering in your marriage or persevering in your divorce. For your marriage, I have done other videos and have written about how to measure when you should leave your spouse, so for today, this will be about persevering in your divorce.
Or life in general.
The examples of people who persevered and emerged victorious are many. Colonel Sanders, at the age of 62, and only his $105 social security check and a chicken recipe in his hands, set out to sell his recipe to restaurants. The first person said, yeah – no thanks. And so did the second. And the thousandth. It was the 1010 person who said “sure- we’ll give it a try.” How many of us would have given up at the 5th? Or 10th or even 50th? And thought to ourselves, maybe this chicken recipe isn’t as great as I think it is…
JK Rowlings was a divorced, single mom, living in her car when she shopped her Harry Potter manuscript to the 12 major publishing houses. They all slammed the proverbial door in her face.
Stephen King was rejected 30 times for Carrie, before deciding it must be complete rubbish and actually threw the manuscript in the trash can. It was his wife who fished it out, and pushed him to keep trying.
U2 was rejected by several record labels.
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team.
What did they all do? Kept going.
As many of you know, I got married at 19, had 3 kids by the time I was 23 and was divorced by 29. It was my divorce that caused me to go to law school. I wanted to survive and create a better life for my kids. Were it not for my divorce, I would not have become a lawyer. Were it not for my divorce, I would not have become one of the top 1% of divorce lawyers in the country. Were it not for my divorce, I would not have written my bestselling divorce book. Were it not for my divorce, I would be talking to you today. My life would be dramatically different. Did I want to quit law school at times, because it was hard? You bet. Did I want to quit law as a new associate because it was brutal? Many times. Are there times I still think things are hard that I don’t want to do but keep going anyway? Daily.
Why? Because I know that nothing worth having is easy. I know that I don’t grow from being comfortable. I know that I was born, as we all were, for a reason. That we are all meant to help each other during our time together here in Earth School.
In your divorce, you might be tempted to throw in the towel – just let the other person have what they want – get it over. Don’t. The peace you seek? You won’t get that way. Why not? Because you will be resentful that the other person “got away” with whatever you think he or she got away with – and, even worse, you will regret it – and think about how you wish you hadn’t given up on getting that fair settlement that you knew you were entitled to – but just didn’t hang in long enough to get it. Don’t be impatient. Slow and steady wins the race. Just outlast them.
This is such great advice for all of us – not just in divorce – but in life. Don’t cave in to the human condition, the pull to give up. If the end goal is something you believe in, something you are passionate about, something you know will make a difference for you or for someone else in the end – keep going. Remember what Norman Vincent Peale said “It’s always too soon to quit.”
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I will see you tomorrow for Thursday Divorce Thoughts – where I will discuss How to Deal With Parental Alienation.
Until then, remember you’re just one step away from your new life. Together, we’ve got this.
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