Rebecca on Divorce
Life is full of unexpected twists and turns. For example, many of us end up in unhappy, difficult marriages and get divorced. The statistics are staggering: One half of all first marriages end in divorce, while 60 percent of second marriages and 73 percent of third marriages fail.
Yet, despite the prevalence of divorce, our society tends to have a very negative view of people who end their marriages, often stigmatizing them as “failures.” Conversely, our culture tends to see those who stick with a long-term marriage as successes, even when a relationship is loveless and unhappy.
I have a very different perspective on divorce. Rather than seeing it as a sign of failure, I believe that divorce can be an act of profound empowerment. Not only can it free someone physically from a bad relationship, but divorce can also provide that person with the emotional and spiritual freedom they need to find greater happiness and fulfillment in life.
I understand the powerful potential of divorce because I ended a difficult, unsatisfying marriage, went on to build a new life for myself that is more than anything I could have ever dreamed of, and am now happily remarried. That is why my career is devoted to giving people who are in bad marriages the information, tools, and support they need to get divorced and to build better lives for themselves. In other words, I want others to discover the empowering potential of divorce just like I did.